probably should have posted another photo. but than a certain someone would think I'm too obvious and attacking him AGAIN. (like I'm constantly making up plans how to ruin? his life)
anyhow. got to this debate with my good friend today. how people don't understand (it's more don't want to) that women and man can be JUST friends. I fail to understand those who think that's impossible. it would make all my friendship with man - meaningless. if I don't use some other word to describe it.
I don't understand how someone can be jealous at someones friend.which brings out another point. trust. in my mind it's simple. you love someone. you trust someone. you let that someone have his/hers friends. or the exact opposite. no middle way. no gray area.
again. walking in circles. not touching the issue. having trouble accepting someones behavior. someones reactions? someones attitude towards me. yes.that would make me think - what's wrong with me? but it's not me with the issues. I have my facts straight. you and I can be friends. you and I could be friends. you and I are not friends coz of her.simple as that. now she must be doing something (will not go to details) bloody good or she would never get that privilege of telling you who you can and can't be friends with. now take this as you want. you know it's true. I know it's true. I think it sucks. you accept it. I don't tolerate jealousy ever. you do. another difference between you and me.true. we're not made for one another.
:P
thought came across my mind. (maybe) you're just using her as an excuse. chicken.
25 februar 2011
jealousy
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very interesting blog :)
I share the same view and feel for you. I really can’t comprehend people’s perceptions on human dynamics. We are all human beings and can’t be kept in cages but need to roam the world and interact with other beings. So be it that during those interactions that we get closer to some from the heard because they make us feel comfortable and grounded then being jealous of those individuals that fills a void in your partner in simply shooting yourself in the foot. Why don’t people appreciate and be thankful to the third party for completing your other half?? This is beyond my comprehension.
Interesting thoughts on jealousy but don't you think also its something to do with a person's insecurity? They feel threatened by your association with other human beings who love you and are around you because of your personality and the joy that you bring to their life? If the other cannot appreciate it then does he/she really belong in your life? Do you really want them to share a part of your precious being.
May be the person in question does not bring the kind of aura to the people around them so they are threatened to the point of intimidation hence all the melodrama.
Even though I should confess that jealousy to a certain part is quite an aphrodisiac but to the point of pushing someone to abhor you is a total disregard of personal space and choice of an individual.
Another off shoot to jealousy is trust.... and if there is no trust in a relationship you rather bin it as it will go nowhere and sooner or later you will end up hurting each other. Once a Vase is broken you can stick it together but it will never be the same again.... Another cause is the lack of self confidence which in my opinion is one of the main causes for feelings of jealousy where you have doubts about your abilities or skills. If you were one hundred percent sure of yourself you would have never suffered from any jealous feelings.
If I may break them down the 4 root causes of jealousy are Lack of self confidence, Poor self image, Fear and Insecurity.
The only thing jealousy is capable of doing is making you feel bad, ruin your relations or simply fill your heart with hatred. It might be helpful upon feeling jealous, don’t go pick fights with others and blame external factors but instead fix problems and these feelings of jealousy that you have will disappear.
You are who you are and don’t let anyone take that individuality away from you. If someone cannot accept who you are they don’t deserve you...........
there's a really good book explaining that all JEALAUSY part. But I'm not sure it's been translated to English (yet). Written by Srečko Horvat - LJUBAV ZA POCETNIKE (Love for begginers) it says there...that if a woman you used to date should be presented to your current - new girlfriend as a friend everything would be OK, but the moment you present her as someone you used to date it's like a conviction - someone you need to get rid of... ABSOLUTE BOLLOCKS that all jelausy...
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